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Rebecca Deamer's avatar

Love this! I'm self employed going on 7 years. I know I'm capable of more but really just get by. With that said, I'm training for my 1st marathon (NYC) I've dedicated the time and discipline and doing the work. I really want this to carry over into my work life. It's hard

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Emily Abbate's avatar

First marathon! New York is so special, you'll be forever changed!

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Marisol Banuelos's avatar

Thats my hurdle too! Been self employed for 5 years and while great, I know I have in me to be better because everyone believes so except myself. Personally, last year carried a lot of grief, and it was until this year when I decided to make it my ME year.

I’m also running my first Marathon, the NYC Marathon next year! And I started running to bring that focus and dedication to my work.

Good luck on the course!!!

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Eliza's Life (Un)expected's avatar

Needed to read this so much right now! I'm in the early stages of learning Luxembourgish (yes, a real language!) and it's so hard to be so, so bad at something. There are big end goals for learning this language to a certain level (to pass a test that allows me to apply for citizenship!). So I have to keep reminding myself (as does my therapist!) over and over that this is something I'm choosing to do. This is a wonderful time to hold no judgement about all the mistakes I make a long the way, and that each struggle bus day of learning will build blocks for reaching my goal. <3

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Emily Abbate's avatar

One building block at a time!

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Amit Malde's avatar

Trying to work on my people pleasing tendencies so that I don’t continue trying to maintain friendships with people who aren’t willing or capable of putting in some effort

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Emily Abbate's avatar

Definitely a struggle, I've been here. One day at a time.

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Lindsay Valenti's avatar

After months of interviewing, I am accepting a job offer and finally leaving a very toxic work environment! It’s scary but also exciting. Lots of emotions come with big change but ultimately, if you don’t pursue better, you’ll stay complacent. Preparing for the next challenge and feeling all the feelings.

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Mike Murphy's avatar

Today is my birthday and Karen’s not here. I’m never going to get used to it, but sometimes I need to be in the thick of my grief. It’s been 7 1/2 years and I’m living a rich and satisfying life because that’s what she most wishes for me but some days…

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Emily Abbate's avatar

Happy, happy birthday Mike! Grief is tricky, but you're doing so great. The only way is through.

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Kait Santos's avatar

Oh, I love that video game analogy. I’ve been feeling a bit the same, but I’m also at the very start of building something new that is totally my own. It’s scary and requires a lot of self-talk awareness and practicing new things to build the muscle to eventually get better. It’s uncomfy! But it’s worth it!!

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Emily Abbate's avatar

Uncomfy but worth it! THAT.

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Kait Santos's avatar

Gotta keep reminding myself!

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